So, there was this:
First off, I wouldn’t tell anyone what they can and cannot wear. I get to that in a little more detail later but first let’s consider why this picture presents a stupid (yes, I said stupid) argument.
Your dog will obey that command. Now, would you use the idea that your dog will obey as evidence that you can leave steaks lying about wherever dogs happen to be.would you consider that a good idea? Some dogs aren’t trained. Some dogs, no matter how much you train them won’t restrain themselves.
Consider. I wear black. (No. Really.) Now, does wearing black mean that I deserve to get hit by cars? Of course not. But that doesn’t change the fact that I’m harder to see at night. So while I don’t “deserve” to be hit and in the end it’s the drivers’ legal responsibility to avoid me it’s still in my best interest to use a little bit of extra caution compared to someone who is dressed in outfits that are easier to see at night.
Truth is, I don’t know if a rapist is more likely to choose a woman in “revealing” attire than one more “modestly” dressed. And the truth is, most places I’ve seen where that question is asked don’t. answer. the. question. They answer a different question about who’s to blame for the rape. (The rapist. Duh.) The closest I was able to find was an answer on a quora question which said:
In South Africa, where rape is a extremely big problem compared to India, they did actual study and found out that dress did influence a rapist, but in a different way, and it has NOTHING to do with the sexiness of the dress. (Will update link if I find it)
Dress made up a small percentage of the victim picking, but it wasn’t based on how sexy it was, but more so based on how much of a trouble the dress would be for the rapist. So jeans,shorts, and certain pants are big turn offs, skirts no matter what their length are advantageous to the rapist,( so are the “traditional” Indian dress of Salwar-Kameez). Essentially all the rapist cares about is how easy it would be to get to her, rape her, and get out of the area, and the dress that caused the least issue was chosen.
Even so, in the end it’s the rapist that’s at fault, not the victim whatever her attire. Now, if I were to say that because certain styles of dress are more likely to be picked by rapists for attack that when wearing such styles one should use extra care not to be victimized, there are those who would scream “rape culture”, “blaming the victim”, and “teach men not to rape.”
They all really boil down to that last one: teach men not to rape.
Here’s the thing, though. We already do. We have been teaching men not to rape for a very long time. Just like we have been teaching men and women not to steal, teaching men and women not to murder, teaching men and women not to defraud others, and so on and so on. For the most part, it works. Most men and women don’t steal, they don’t murder, they don’t commit fraud…and they don’t rape.
But there’s always that one asshole who doesn’t get the message. It’s not the vast majority of men one has to worry about. Like the dog in the picture of the OP, they’ll take “no” for an answer. But there remains an irreducible fraction of scum who won’t, that no amount of attempting to teach them to morally and ethically get along with others will reach. Those are the ones you have to worry about.
In the end, you have to look after your own safety. Not because you’re at fault, even if you don’t. But because you don’t want to be a victim. So when I suggest that you might want to learn to defend yourself against an attack, to use care in situations where you might be attacked, or to arm yourself against an attack by someone bigger and stronger than you (after all, rapists rarely pick victims their own size and strength), I’m not blaming you for being victimized. That blame lies entirely with the attacker. I’m trying to help you not be victimized since there’s little I can do about the attacker.
So if you want to take extra precaution, I’ll cheer your choice If you look at the options and decide they’re not for you, I’ll cheer for you making your own choice. If you want some specific advice, there are some things I can suggest. Changing to frumpy clothes would probably not be among those suggestions.
But if you want to accessorize, I hear Colt, Beretta, and Kimber make some excellent anti-rape fashion accessories. Nothing teaches rapists not to rape like jacketed hollow points to the center of mass.
And if that’s a direction you’d like to go, I’d be more than willing to help as would a lot of other people.